Family

[blondiepink]

Since my family abandoned me I feel really alone and every I meet doesn't seem to care about my situation or problems at all, they would rather talk about themselves. I'm 6 months pregnant and I'm terrified of doing this all on my own. I can't help but ask myself what if I'm shit? But my mum was an alcoholic and I don't drink, so how can I be worse then her.

@blondiepink
Why have you been abandoned by your family?

If they are toxic and alcoholics , you might be better off without them!

Do you have a supportive partner or friend that can help you through your pregnancy.

I think you might need some counselling, I’m sure you will be a brilliant mother, so don’t compare yourself to your mother.

You might want to research Complex Ptsd, as it sounds like you might be suffering from it. It is due to a traumatic childhood.

Check out Richard Grannon on YouTube.

You just one really supportive friend to help you.

Stay strong.

There should be lots of support for you, it's hopefully just a case of finding it.

Are you seeing a midwife regularly? They should have family support workers that you can engage with. Once the baby arrives, there's baby groups at children's centres, libraries, some parks have groups of mums that meet to have a walk and chat (often organised via Facebook), do you live near a swimming pool?

If you get out and about, and talk to other parents when you go to these places, you'll soon grow your support network. If you're determined not to be like your parents then you won't be, you don't need to worry about that. At some point everyone feels like a shit parent but I have a theory that if you're aware enough to have that thought, you're also capable of turning it around.