last year my husband confessed that he lost all our savings when he gave his money to a guy he knew (briefly) and was supposedly going into business with him, he even borrowed money from people and the man ended up running away. He said he didn't want to tell me because he wanted it to be a surprise that he would be a partner in his own business. I was furious but I could tell he was very upset about it, I have some family money and had no option but to use it - I had to lie to my father about how my DH lost our money. I paid for rent and school for 6 months plus any expenses - I even helped him pay off the people he owed money to. DH barely saves money also because he supports his mother and father. A few months later I discovered from my SIL that DH was using hard core drugs, we were living in different cities because of his work schedule, so I had no idea, he did loose lots of weight which I assumed was due to the stress of losing money. Turns out he was on drugs for over 4 months. he quit on his own, and wanted that part of his life forgotten so he didn't tell me and I discovered by accident. I was crushed. it made me question everything. the nights when he said he was too tired to take a 45 min flight to come and see me and our kids.. instead he was getting as high as a kite. we have 2 together and I am also raising his teenage daughter (his ex is not in the picture) . it made me question If losing the money was actually a legit business deal and he didn't even have any documents to prove it. even when dh did come home he was minimally involved with the kids. so obviously I resented him. So many things and yet I decided to stick it out and make it work. I took us to therapy but it was short lived, he tried to fix a few things here and there but I felt it was too little too late. nevertheless I tried to be a loving and supportive wife until last month when he started sleeping out of the house a few nights - told him I would not tolerate it, he did it 2 more times, I discovered he lied to me about his flight time and he went out with the guys to "blow off some steam" that was the final straw. He didn't even seem that bothered that I caught him in a lie. ive gone back to live with my parents for the time being and told him I couldn't live with him anymore. He said he would give couples therapy another go and I said no HE would need therapy first before we work on us. He confessed that he didn't love me anymore - the only reason he would probably want to try to make it work is for the kids. I don't know what im asking for by posting this here, maybe some validation that I put up with enough and its time to move on. Am I making the right choice?