Bf/exbf

[Delbelleber]

We have a rocky relationship and for the past 2 weeks after a fall out I've been getting insulting messages, I'm manipulating, jealous, selfish etc etc .
I think the truth is this is his behaviour not mine but I can't get through to him on that.
Today he messages me like everything is normal.

Wtf why does he go between insulting unreasonable arse hole to just normal?
As far as I'm concerned nothing has changed and I want nothing to do with him.

No doubt he will go back to insults when I don't reply!

Of course it's him.

He's the one sending the abusive messages.

Stop wasting your energy trying to work out what makes him tick. He's an abuser. Power and control makes him tick and your unhappiness makes him happy.

Block him.

There are hundreds, if not thousands, of women on this site who will recognise this behaviour as abusive, sadly from lived experience.

Please make the most of that wisdom and do not engage any further with your bf. Make it clear (by text) that you do not wish to have any further contact then block him (phone/email/Facebook/whatever).

If he continues to try to contact you, report him to the police for harrassment. He will no doubt try to minimise his behaviour, put it on you for having started the fight, or gaslight you into believing that it didn't actually happen how it happened. If you engage you will be on a path to frustration, misery and total loss of confidence in yourself.

Block, ignore and have a nice life without him. You do not need to put up with this. Sadly it is what some men do: put you down and then reel you back in again. It’s a mind game you are not obliged to play, so just step away from the whole shitshow.

Thank you. I'm so sick of getting reeled back in and trying to help him and he doesn't want helped. He really turns everything around on me.
Thanks for these supportive messages it will help me stay strong.

Hey OP - hope you stayed strong over the weeknd. Maybe whenever you start feeling a bit wobbly (or he switches back to Mr. Nice Guy) have a look at your original post and at a few of the other "is this normal in a reationship?" threads. You deserve respect and support, not his BS.