Should I have said no?

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DH left this morning to go on a trip for a few days with a friend. This friend had the trip planned for a long time with another friend who pulled out last minute and only asked DH yesterday if he'd be able to take the friends place. He asked if I minded if he were to go to which I told him to go have a good time, so he arranged a dog walker - we have a 4mo baby and a husky so I can't fulfil her needs re walking without DH help - and made sure he got in plenty food etc to do me for the weekend. Hand on heart I was happy for him to go and enjoy himself but I can't help feeling slightly resentful as I sit and look through the photos he's sending of him having a great time and I'm not getting to be a part of it too. Am I just being a jealous cow as I'm not the one getting to enjoy a trip with him or should I have said no to him going?

Surely you want your husband to have a good time away? At some point you'll get a chance and he can stay home with the baby, better yet all three get away.
It is a bit mean spirited though understandable to feel as you do.

Let him enjoy and then he can sit back and watch while you send pictures of your holiday with the girls

Make plans for your own trip in a couple weeks.

My question about this kind of thing, is could you do something similar? If not, then it’s not really fair

Think I may need to arrange a wine weekend with the girls soon! And I am being mean spirited, I want him to have a great time it's just that he's gone to a city that we've spoke about going to for quite a while so I'm pretty jealous.

And yes @EL8888 he'd be more than happy to let me go while he looks after DD

Understandable to feel jealous but as long as you don't let him know that, no problemo. I'm sure he'd be happy for you to have your wine weekend when you're ready. Bask in your generosity and plan wonderful things for yourself

It's not like he's chosen to go away without inviting you, it sounds like he was very considerate and it's just a nice opportunity for him. Try not to be bitter when he gets back!

You did a nice thing for him. You’ve been nicely prepped with shopping etc so he hasn’t just dropped you and run. You can handle the weekend knowing that he is recharging his batteries and you’re stacking up the brownie points for the next time you fancy a stress free weekend.

I think it's natural OP but so long as he actually IS happy and accommodating when it's your turn or when you try to make it your turn, I think it's one of this things where you suck it up and accept the FOMO. Start looking at where you might go to take your mind off it!

It's perfectly ok for you to mind, but don't resent. He sounds like a good man. Make sure you get a break too.

Do the photos include ones of his friend?

He's been great making sure I've been sorted out with what I need before he left so I shouldn't complain and DD is an easy baby so I'll enjoy my alone time with her! And a few nights of the bed to myself won't hurt

And yes the photos are of him and his friend doing some sight seeing, enjoying good food and just having a good time. They've been friends since they were little boys.

He sounds lovely. If there are no red flags, don't worry.
Your baby is happy because he has happy parents.

My dh has gone away with two of his friends this weekend leaving me with 2 dc.

Just as I went away with my girlfriends just after Christmas leaving him with the two dc.

It is understandable that you feel jealous but unreasonable if you had of said no.