Try for another child?

[Amah1]

I really dont think my relationship is going to work and most days I just bite my tongue and try not to kick him out. I dont feel like we are in love anymore, he is becoming lazier everyday, he is always angry and shouting. I have a child from a previous relationship and I have 2 with my current partner. I had planned on having another with my partner but our relationship is getting worse and he constantly tells me hes leaving when kids turn 18 ( they are toddlers just now) should I secretly get pregnant before I break up with him so my youngest 3 children are full siblings, I would plan on him being there until conceived child turn 1 or just get him out now and not try for a baby. I really wanted to have one more and I have kept all baby equipment in preparation for another baby? Please give me advice? I should also say he wasn't like this when we met and we have been together 8 years

Your husband sounds exactly like the dad of my kids. We planned 3 babies. After the first we were keen to try for the second, during the trying things got worse and I eventually made the decision to stop trying and make plans to leave - I found out I was pregnant the next week. Having a second child is my biggest regret - I love him with my life but putting 2 kids through an abusive childhood and painful divorce is awful. Being a single mum to 2 kids is tough. Leaving with 2 was far tougher than leaving wirh one. I've just started back at work for the first time since having my first kid, childcare is expensive and a constant juggle.

I'm 100% for choosing to be a single mum, it's infinitely better than being stuck wirh a lazy shit. But bringing more kids into it deliberately is cruel.

"If I do want a fourth, i dont want to wait for Mr Right and have a baby in years time when I could have another within the next year"

Wow 🙄

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Don’t engage - it’s clearly a troll.

Oh for fucks sake.

OP is like -kids are Pokemon, gotta catch em all! Who actually gives a fuck about all these people being bred by domestic abusers, as long as OP gets another bayyybee to dress up, eh.

Cool story, OP. Try a domestic abuse victim course instead of pumping out kids constantly.

i think I’m a good mom
Oh sweetie 😂 You arent.
Good mums don’t deliberately fall pregnant on the sly to lazy arseholes, just cause they want to.
HTH

Thank you for all your advice. So I spoke to my partner and told him I want another baby and if he doesn't he needs to leave so I can meet Mr right to have another baby. TTC begins tonight. Thank you for encouraging honesty in the relationship

Your poor children.

Don’t be so bloody stupid OP. How could you even consider tricking your partner into getting you pregnant and bringing another child into this mess?

What if it’s not as easy to get rid of him as you think it will be for a start? And you’d be lumbering yet another child with a shit father.

what you are considering is unconscionable. Three kids is plenty. Stop being so bloody selfish. Get rid of the arsehole and concentrate on looking after the kids you have.

This has to be BS.

There can't actually be people out there who think like this? Troll-tastic.

I think OP is bored and on the wind up!
Hope you got some amusement out of it OP... not sad at all!

This cant be real surely no one is that selfish and stupid...