To try again.......or not.

[Imarriedaviking]

I'm two years out of a dv relationship.
Stupidly, I tried OLD too quickly, only 3 months after leaving.
I know it was too early, hindsight is a wonderful thing.
I was an absolute mess, emotionally and on ADs.
But, I was panicking about being alone, first time ever in my life.
Now, I know I can manage, even sorting out minor car issues.
I met a lovely guy, think Bill Nighy crossed with Tom Petty.
I was vile to him, really evil and dumped him after 3 months, think I was seeing red flags when there really weren't any.He was always so kind.
I had a cancer scare, all ok, thank goodness.He came to hospital, waited whilst I had various tests, made sure I was ok afterwards.
He often drops by for a coffee if he's in my area.
We're supposed to to meeting up next week for an evening out but,
can you , would you, try again?
I'm still having counselling re DV and I know not all men are bad.

Yes, personally I would if I felt ready to but I think you need to have an honest conversation with him about why you treated him the way you did. You're lucky he's still interested if you were as horrible to him as you say but he sounds as though he genuinely cares about you. Maybe he's the one who will show you they aren't all bad 😊