Four dates in, is this normal or is he not interested?

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Four dates in, over around 3 weeks. Spoken on the phone a couple of times a week.

It’s been ages since I had more than two dates so I’m in new territory. We’ve got the next date arranged for Saturday night but I’ve not heard from him at all today and only heard from him yesterday because I contacted him. He’s contacted me first in the past on most days.

I’m obviously looking at this minor change in texting as something huge. Is it a big deal? Normal? Am I reading into things?

It’s a bit early to tell

Thought that might be the answer! I’m so new to all this.

Hi OP, did you meet online?

He might be checking to see if you like him back, by letting you contact first.
Not a deliberate game, but we all know how nice it is to be contacted first.

See how you get on with the next date, it's early days.

It is hard to say but I personally find an expectation of daily texting after only four dates to be too much. I think of you heard from him yesterday and have something planned for the weekend it’s nice to have a check in on the Friday to just confirm plans etc but I’d not feel the need to text before then.

On the other hand, some people seem to think texts should be daily. To avoid doubt / manage expectations I’d normally just let someone know what I prefer!

Would just see what happens at this stage and not worry.

I'd expect someone who was into me to be texting me tbh

@MrJollyLivesNextDoor I bet he's thinking exactly that, which is why he's giving OP the opportunity to initiate contact. It's not 1950, men aren't expected to court women anymore.