History. Previously married to a very abusive man, lots of gaslighting and coercion and massive verbal outburst with major personal attacks on me. Messed with my head and left me unsure of what's normal and what's not.
Now with lovely man for 8 years (married), settled great marriage, shared childcare and work etc, no issues.
For the past few months DH has suddenly started being very sarcastic over nothing. Eg. Started This conversation, 'you know Mick has a sister, well apparently she worked..... '. I say 'which Mick is this', as he used to have another friend called Mick. Then starts a long speech, 'you know Mick, the one I meet up with every weekend, the one with the long hair, the one you've met several times', and several more comments along the lines, said very sarcastically, and making me look like the stupidest person on the planet for know knowing which person he is talking about. Like I can mind read.
He makes me feel like I'm being incredibly thick and stupid, and like exH used to make me feel. Unsure of myself and humiliated.
So, I am not going to put up with this. I don't know why he's doing it, maybe it's something in me that brings out this in men. I'm not going to allow an escalation like I did before. I'm not tolerating this.
I don't want to end what has been a great supportive marriage, but I need advice on how to nip this in the bud. What can I say next time he does this?
I will at some point sit down and see what's going on in his life, but if my exH is anything to go on, no amount of 'talk' will sink in. I need an instant way of stopping this. Maybe it will be enough.