whats a healthy relationship look like?

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after some awful relationships and learning better self awareness I realised I don't know what a modern, healthy relationship should be like.

can you post up examples or resources please?

Every relationship is different.
Every person has a different expectation of what they want.
But any relationship should be equal.
You should be heard.
You should feel loved and cherished but not smothered.
You should have interests outside of each other.
You should do things together and apart.
You should share any household chores and responsibilities.
You should respect each other.
You can disagree with each other but do it in a healthy way and agree to disagree or compromise.
Healthy communication is also key.
You should have absolutely trust in each other.
You should be able to share any concerns or worries with the other person.

THIS SORT OF ARTICLE is what you need to look for.
Or THIS HERE
Just google 'what does a healthy relationship look like' and do a bit of research.

Have you had outside support since your previous relationships?
Do you like and love yourself?
Are you happy in your own company?

If you have been in abusive relationships in the past then please do contact Womens Aid.
They can help with local counsellors or therapists in your area that specialise in this.
They also run the Freedom Programme so enrol to do that.

That will help you with boundaries, self-esteem and spotting red flags.

I'm guessing all of the above, but to summarise I'd say both parties should be happily in the relationship and free to discuss anything which isn't making them happy, knowing their partner will work with them to resolve it.

Hellsbellsmelons just wanted to say what a lovely post! That’s helped my over thinking mind, thank you!