I’ve been with my wife 4 years now and we have a 2 year old.
Things have been steady but we don’t really see much of each other because I work my shifts around my wife’s so one of us is either working or taking care of our daughter it has felt like we are ships passing in the night but I have always been looking at the bigger picture of us getting 30 free hours once our daughter turns 3 which would take a lot of pressure off us and means we will get a lot more time together.
My wife has never been the most affectionate person, and isn’t one with her emotions.
If my wife is upset she doesn’t get angry instead she bottles things up, I would rather she had a screaming match and got everything out in the open as this would be healthier for the relationship but instead she puts up walls and gives me the cold shoulder for a day.
My wife has now decided she wants to separate and I moved back into my parents to give her space. This has come as a shock to the system as I didn’t realise how unhappy she has been.
I have sat down with her and tried to talk things through, I have offered to change my shifts and make more time for date nights.
My wife didn’t want to listen and I think she has emotionally removed herself from the situation.
Even though it’s only been a week my wife keeps telling me that the sooner I accept it the easier it will be for us.
I wish I could get through to my wife and make her realise that our problems can be worked on but instead she has shut me out.
Should I accept this and move on with my life or should I give her space and time to see if this is really what she wants?
Maybe if she went a week or so without seeing me it would help her decide if this is really the end of our marriage?
It’s been hard and I have been racking my brain trying to find answers, I feel as though I will never get closure because she won’t give us a chance to work through things.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Thank you