How to get self respect back after being ditched ?

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After him telling me he wanted nothing more to do with him.
I acted needy.
Calling him,voice notes and texts asking for explanations
I've made a fool of myself
He didn't treat me nice and now I feel desperate
How do I get my self respect back ?
And prove I'm not crazy /desperate

You get your self respect by walking away and being happy with what you have in your life.
And feeling good that you had a lucky escape.

Don't beat yourself up. It's done now, we have all been there, and we are human. All you can do is walk away from this guy, delete and block him and know you have had a lucky escape.

No contact helps.

You had some pretty good advice on all your other posts

Block him on your phone, e-mail and all social media apps.
No contact.

prove to whom you aren't crazy or desperate?

Just prove to the guy that I'm not desperate or crazy

Just walk away now. Block and delete his number if you can (I.e. don't have kids together). Either way, stop contacting him. You don't need to prove anything to him but for your sake, the only way is to act now with dignity.

The fact that you want to prove something to him speaks volumes. Can't you see that OP?
He isn't in your life anymore. Nothing to prove. Concentrate on you. Build a new social life and don't give him headspace.

The way you get some self respect back:

Accept that you are a human being and you acted out on feelings, for whatever reason. You were reacting to a situation. Ideally you'd have not reacted in this way, but you did. Forgive yourself.

Take the focus off him and what he thinks and bring it back to you.

Do not contact him. He said he wants nothing more to do with you and presumably hasn't replied. Any more contact you make will make you feel worse about yourself and more desperate.

What you did, in the scheme of things, is not that bad. So you sent a few too many texts, or called and so on. It's okay, I'm sure he'll survive. Anyway he's out of the picture

Delete his number if possible.

Many people have done the same. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you

i'd be more concerned about proving to yourself, rather than him, that you're not crazy/desperate. and the way to do that is to walk away and not contact him again. block and delete his number. I read one of your other threads and really felt for you. but it sounded like he'd made it crystal clear he wants you to leave him alone altogether. so you need to fully acknowledge this to yourself and internalise that knowledge. you won't win him back and the harder you try to convince someone you're not crazy the more crazy you're likely to seem.

be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel sad about him, but the way to regain some self-respect isn't by convincing him of anything. it's by recognising that he treated you really poorly and you deserve at the very least someone who actually wants to be with you.

Get your big girl pants on. Feck him. I think we go through shit relationships at times as a method of self sabotage.
Get your confidence back fake it if you need to.

He has told you to leave him alone, OP, hasn't he?