Should I ask the unaskable?

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After nearly splitting up last year, my brother (48) has just got engaged to his partner of 5 years. I’ve asked questions about the impending wedding and it’s like pulling teeth! My gut feeling is that he’s not happy. Should I ask him “are you sure?”

Yes. Ask him and be supportive and loving as I'm sure you will be. He may need to know that it's OK to call a wedding off. Far better for him to do that than go through a divorce.

Yes, ask.
Why did they nearly split up?

@MikeUniformMike Her grown up children were causing issues between them and he’d had enough

I wish someone had asked me when I was in the same situation, in massive denial, trying to pretend everything was going to be OK. Of course, it wasn’t. My marriage lasted three months.

Do it. Ask him if he's sure it's what he wants. He may welcome the chance to talk about the whole thing. Alternatively, he may take offence and be annoyed, but at least he'll know you care enough to ask if everything is okay.

Men are pretty shit at this type of thing. My DH was happy to keep handing over money but really wanted nothing to do with arrangements. He was as surprised as some of the guests at things I had arranged for the day! But didnt mean he wasnt interested or didnt want to marry me. Just say, lightly, "you sure about this? You dont seem too interested!" Keep.it breezy and light and then judge his reaction. Sure it's all fine.

Congrats by the way and good luck xx

@mamato3lads I think you need to re-read, unless you usually congratulate people on their brother's wedding?

Absolutely ask him soon.
My dad said the same to my sister on the morning of her wedding. She said, "Yes."
He was right to ask, as they were divorced within 5 years.