Had a third date last night that went really well. The first two were great and it’s obvious we click. I’m so picky and rarely take an interest in people I meet online, so all was good!
Until...we talked about the exes. My relationship ended in August and by October I was pretty much ok and over it. His 1 year relationship ended in November and he told me he was pretty cut up about it but recognised it was right to end and that they had different values. She apparently told him she was sad to end it but she felt there was something missing for her and that he would no doubt make someone else very happy. He still has her on social media and when he was on Facebook last night showing me a photo of a holiday we were talking about, I saw that she was in his recent searches.
November seems very close to the break up. I don’t want to be compared to someone and I don’t want to be second best. I asked him if he wants to slow things down or pick up in a few weeks when he’s cleared his head more. He said there was no need, he didn’t know what that would achieve and although he didn’t expect to meet someone so soon, he was happy to have met me. He said he thought stopping seeing each other now would be artificial and a shame. He offered meeting on a platonic basis for a while if that made me feel more comfortable but said that was definitely not his preference.
Would you hold the horses on this one and keep a gap before the next date or just roll with it? Maybe my own insecurity rather than a real issue but I want to do the best thing here and I don’t know what that is.