Something doesn't feel right

[probablynotthere1]

I have been with DH almost 7 years, married for 3. We have a 2yo DS. We've recently bought a house and DH has started a new (better job) we both work part-time and have a pretty sweet life.

Something doesn't feel right, I think I just never imagined my life turning out quite this -normal- ? DH is not adventurous in the least and while I love him, its not that all consuming love - he pisses me off a lot and there are aspects of his personality I find undesirable. He is guilty of being a bit of man child sometimes and I do a LOT of the household jobs / lions share of driving/sorting bills/deciding what we do at the weekend. Sex is great however, so not an issue there.

I also feel like I never got over my ex. We lived together in another city, got along well and had some nice adventures together. He would often cook for me or plan days out. We barely ever had sex but it didn't bother me much. I think of him all the time and sometimes have dreams about him. We still talk sometimes and I can't help but miss him being in my life.

Where I live now is a new build property in city outskirts surrounded by roads. The primary school my DS will probably go to is huge.

I just never imagined my life like this, I fantasise about leaving DH and moving somewhere I love and finding someone now.

Am I crazy?!

Not crazy but probably unrealistic. Being a mother in many ways your days of exciting adventures are over as your child needs a permanent base, school, friends.

Can you talk to your husband about what is jacking in your marriage, try and find a middle ground?

What was it that made you marry your husband?

I have spoken with DH about where we live and he agrees.. it is not really what we had in mind. Its a difficult situation as we only moved here in December and we were so desperate to get out of rented accommodation we jumped into it.

We could sell and move, but I think it would just be such a big upheaval again and all of our families helped us out with moving and money etc.

@Windmillwhirl
"Can you talk to your husband about what is jacking in your marriage, try and find a middle ground?

What was it that made you marry your husband?"

I've tried in the past, I've asked him to be more of an 'adult' which is very hard without coming off condescending. He never takes it well.

I married him because everything seemed great. I guess I always had this niggling feeling but pushed it aside.