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Lost momentum

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Dodgingbullets · 21/01/2020 08:29

I have been seeing a guy since late Nov but differing schedules and Xmas break have made things complicated. We had a misunderstanding and didn’t chat for a few days but agreed to meet up on the weekend. Both looking forward and felt we needed to do this to regain momentum / get things going again and finally see each other in person! He has been keen so far and I am too. Can’t really go into details but had been going really well and seemed like things were heading exclusive but there was an annoying (resolvable!) spanner one the works at an early stage.

On Sunday we had a vague time in mind and definitely a place, I messaged saying I was looking forward but could we do x activity after y activity. He said fine. I then asked a couple of hours before if we could possibly move to a couple of hours later as I was feeling delicate (he knew this) but if he couldn’t do later, that was totally fine let’s stick to original time as wanted to see him. We had only agreed on timings late the day before and had both said we were around most of the day hence why I asked. But didn’t want to properly reschedule or cancel!

His response was to do yesterday evening. I said great, we chatted. Yesterday lunchtime he then said he was being hammered at work so wanted to let me know in advance without letting me down last min. I said sorry to hear, thanks for letting me know etc. Final text from him late afternoon saying best to cancel as was mental. Again I said sorry (we work in similar, full on jobs!) and expressed sympathy. Do I just leave it now?

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3rdchristmaslucky · 21/01/2020 08:40

No, I wouldn't leave it.
You needed to reschedule and he kept it going. He's had to do the same now.
Try a lunch date or something.

Dodgingbullets · 21/01/2020 08:42

Thanks, good advice. He didn’t speak about rescheduling at all. I mentioned it in mine, he just said cancel... Makes me think he has had second thoughts?

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FetchezLaVache · 21/01/2020 08:45

I would leave it. It shouldn't be this hard three months in and frankly, neither of you sounds like you're that bothered about seeing the other.

Dodgingbullets · 21/01/2020 08:50

Fetchez - think we are but have only managed to see each other about four times. Would really like to regain momentum but thinking it’s maybe lost

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litterbird · 21/01/2020 09:13

Step back for a few days, let him deal with his work schedule then approach another date. If it doesn't come to fruition then at least you have tried and you know that perhaps the timing was out for both of you and move on.

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