Am I being too pushy, friend (with benefits) with depression?

[Eesha]

I posted about this on another thread but didn't want to derail it! My FWB has depression and we had a small row about lack of contact and he said he was very upset and needed to lay low and sort his head out. We usually communicate every day. It's really hurting me and has only been a couple of days. I just can't deal with the uncertainty for some reason, I just need to know what's happening. Should I just stay quiet and wait or should I just ask how long this silence will go on for? He has depression so has a tendency to do this kind of thing before me but it's the first time he has done it to me.

This is a fwb not a relationship, stay quiet. Are you sure that you are happy with a fwb?

Its FWB

You aren't suppose to be bothered by things like this....

I think you have to many feelings for FWB

@Wtfdoipick i think it's more, we have been friends for 18months, I don't understand how he can just disappear like that. The issue is me not coping with the uncertainty.

A FWB with depression is a NO NO.........

This is not FWB.

so you're saying avoid? But we are friends too.

In the nicest possible way and with all due respect... leave him alone.

He needs some space.

@followingonfromthat you're right. I will.

But we are friends too.

Do you have other friends you talk to every day and would be upset if they needed a little space? You sound like you're lying to yourself.

@MrsTerryPratchett it's been more than a FWB situation definitely, hence it's impacted me quite hard. I thought i could do it without really needing the emotional part but I couldn't. As a PP said, I just have to leave him alone which I've done and don't really expect to hear from him now.

That's rough. He is taking up space for an actual relationship though. Maybe it's time to look for something more serious. With someone else.

@MrsTerryPratchett you are right, it's just it suited me and helped me heal from an abusive ex partner. That's why I'm so hurt, it makes me feel like a fool for opening myself up to a friend and doing all this, I wish I'd just stayed on my own.

It was what it was when it was. I had a relationship like this after my marriage broke up. It was good for then but ended sadly. But I'm grateful it happened. You're ready for something else now.