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Help needed to get over him!

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Borges2311 · 20/01/2020 11:59

Hi all just want some positive advise if possible, I have been in a relationship with my current partner for 5 and a half years, I have 2 previous children from my first relationship and we have a daughter together. We have known each other since secondary school but since being in a relationship with him have seen a completely different side to him.
He has had a stressful childhood and has just been diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder, he is extremely selfish and everything has to revolve around him, he will take whatever money he likes off anyone with out asking (he has even stolen £400 off my 9yr old daughter that she had been saving for the past two years) he can get very aggressive and has on one occasion hit me - he is always accusing me of stupid things (if it take to long shopping I am drilled as to what I have been doing etc...) He has currently been out of work for a year and even whilst in work begrudges giving me anything towards to house or bills but yes will take and use my credit cards and not pay anything back! There is plenty more and I know he is no good for no one but I can’t help but always let him back - if I don’t I end up falling to pieces like he has the magic hold over me that I can’t seem to shift!

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DivGirl · 20/01/2020 12:02

Sorry, why are you putting your kids through this?

hellsbellsmelons · 20/01/2020 12:04

Contact Womens Aid and do their Freedom Programme - asap.
You already what he is.
But you keep allowing him back.
Only YOU can put an end to this.
He stole £400 from a child! FFS, if that doesn't make you want to kill him then I'm at a loss as to what to tell you.
Protect your poor DC from this vile abuser.
If you don't, they will grow up to be abusers or to become victims, just like you!
If you can't do it for yourself then please do it for them!
Womens Aid can help you get him out of the house!

Borges2311 · 20/01/2020 12:08

Thank you both

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