How would you handle this?

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I've nc.

My Dh and I share a Spotify account. We don't use it a huge amount but I know he sometimes uses it to help with sleep and also when driving.

Was just going to try putting some motivating music on and I noticed in "heavy rotation" some music by an ex girlfriend of his. Going back to around 2004. She's obviously only recently got it published on Spotify. It's modern relaxing ambient classical music, I think she was/ is a cellist.

I know she works around the same arts areas as dh might, they might actually cross paths.

I would imagine he's had to search it out but possibly it was offered based on our history as we use a local baby / toddler music group's Spotify a lot (they compose original and traditional things) - I wondered if Spotify noticed the locality of both and so suggested it.

I have tried to see what old exes are doing out of curiosity so I'm not hugely bothered. It ended badly for them so I imagine it's curiosity. I suppose I'm bothered it's in 'heavy use!'

We have two young children and have had a number of strains recently.

Would you mention it? I'm not sure I can't tbh!

I personally can't listen to the work of a well known indie rock group as their bassist was best friends with an old ex!

If you don't use the account often, then surely even the music you don't play often will appear in your heavy rotation?

Yes that's what I can't work out though. Unless it's just albums.

Well I asked him outright. He said he did listen to it several times one night; probably to help him sleep. I can appreciate it's very good, I think she's doing a lot for films.

At the same time I feel odd that he would do that while I spent a night looking after our 20 month old who has been ill or teething for some time. I'm cosleeping to cope.

But also recognise, music is music.