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What did you do with the ring after divorce?

109 replies

Nogoodwithgoodbyes · 19/01/2020 20:07

I’m separated and on the road to divorce; so thinking about the rings is a distraction from all the ‘big stuff.’

What did you do with your wedding & engagement rings after you separated/got divorced? I quite like mine now but I don’t want to wear them as I’d like to meet someone new someday.

OP posts:
category12 · 19/01/2020 20:09

I thought about selling them but they weren't worth much really. They're in the bits n bobs drawer.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 19/01/2020 20:10

I sold my wedding ring to one of those cash for gold places and me and the kids went out for a pizza.

Didn't have an engagement ring.

Gingaaarghpussy · 19/01/2020 20:10

Sold it.

Snowpatrolling · 19/01/2020 20:11

Mine weren’t worth a lot. I sold my engagement ring for £60 and had a slap up Chinese that night!
And I threw my wedding ring into a river (was a shitty Argos ring as I wasn’t worth any more!)
Funny enough he asked for them back! The Chinese went down a treat! 😂

PorpentinaScamander · 19/01/2020 20:11

I've never been married but my Mum kept them in her jewellery box so I could have them one day if I wanted them. And then one Christmas she was so skint she flogged them so us children could have presents and dinner.

Mummaofmytribe · 19/01/2020 20:15

I gave my wedding ring to a mate's 10 yr old daughter who admired it. My friend was scandalised by my lack of sentimentality, but it meant so little to me by then that I was just happy that the little girl was so happy.
Didn't have an engagement ring.

TheMovingFishfinger · 19/01/2020 20:16

Do you have children, OP? My mum put her rings and my dad's (i think) along with other jewellery he bought her in a small jewellery box and put it in the drawer. She said they were mine to have as keepsakes. Same with pictures of them together.

I haven't bothered removing them from said drawer but whenever i visit back home i have look through it.

Iwanttoseethesea · 19/01/2020 20:16

Sold mine at a cash for gold place and put it towards a weekend away with the kids

FlaskMaster · 19/01/2020 20:16

Sell it, give it to your dd, wear it on your other hand, or chuck it into Mordor, if you're going that way.

EauDeResistance · 19/01/2020 20:17

Sold them. Got naff all for them really and just spent the little I got on food or something.

Good riddance.

whiteroseredrose · 19/01/2020 20:20

My DM flushed hers down the lavatory!

Ikeameatballs · 19/01/2020 20:20

Sold engagement ring for £1k and put it towards a holiday for me and the dc.

Dazedandconfused10 · 19/01/2020 20:22

They're in a box. They'll probably stay in the box.

shemakesmewaitonabedofnails · 19/01/2020 20:22

I've kept mine. Going to make it into a signet ring for DS when he's older - with the gold from ex-DH's ring. We're amicable and I want to show DS that he came from our marriage. Bit twee perhaps.

dudsville · 19/01/2020 20:24

I kept it for a bit because I felt I should. Then I put it out with the rubbish one day. Felt right for me.

20CMB20 · 19/01/2020 20:24

My wedding ring was only very cheap (no engagement ring), and could very happily have been flushed down the loo. However, I kept it so that DD can have it if she wants it in due course, as she was upset when I took it off.

Lost87 · 19/01/2020 20:25

Mine didn't cost a lot and it was a horrible abusive marriage so the day I went to the solicitor to start quick divorce proceedings due to abuse, I threw it in the bin and went to Pandora and got myself a lovely divorce present to replace it. The girl who served me asked me if it was a gift and I said yep, a divorce gift to myself. She loved that i was doing something to better myself x

ravenmum · 19/01/2020 20:26

I still had the original box, so I decided to polish it up and ceremonially give it back :) However, when I polished it, it broke! He'd had it widened slightly for me, but must have had it done on the cheap as the extension wasn't gold, and came apart when I rubbed it. So I symbolically handed back the broken ring in its box.

dudsville · 19/01/2020 20:26

I have my mother's wedding ring to my father. It does mean a lot to me.

DartmoorChef · 19/01/2020 20:26

Sold it and used the money to replace my phone which he had smashed in his rage.

SanFranBear · 19/01/2020 20:27

Mine are in a little pot in my room as I think DD may want them.. i did look into selling them but they're worth fuck all so thought may as well hang onto them!

YesILikeItToo · 19/01/2020 20:29

I’m having diamond earrings made from my engagement ring. I’m keeping the wedding ring - a small metal circle just seems like a thing that might come in handy for some purpose. Dowsing?

Soontobe60 · 19/01/2020 20:29

Kept my wedding ring in a box and gave it to my dd on her wedding day. She wore it on her right hand.

Robin2323 · 19/01/2020 20:29

I was saving them for my daughter - beautiful sapphire - for when she was oh an age to appreciate it - then she asked for it earlier , and as she was an

Adult I gave them her early.
I hope she's keeps them

SaintEyning · 19/01/2020 20:37

Never managed to get down the aisle but have two engagement rings in my jewellery box - offered to give them back but neither was accepted.

Have since bought myself the ring I would have really wanted and wear it on my right hand.

No daughters to give any of them to, so DS will have a selection of potential engagement rings to choose from, should he ever pop the question to a woman with very thin fingers.