OLD cancelled 2 hrs before- do you give them a second chance?

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Date cancelled at 7 yesterday, which I thought was pretty crappy, but did message and suggest going out this Saturday.

I'm inclined to say no but I don't know if I'm being a bit princessy.

It depends on the reason. Everyone can have something come up last minute. One guy messaged 30 mins before and I was a bit annoyed, but when I went on the second date with him he said his mother had a fall and had broken her arm so he drove her to the hospital. I thought that was perfectly reasonable.

If I suspected he had a better offer I wouldn't rearrange

I would tell him you're happy to meet him - near your office - for a cuppa at lunchtime. Then see if you even like him. If he's keen (and actually remorseful - he'll happily come to you.

Don't waste a Saturday night on a canceller.

Even more reluctant to waste a lunchtime on one

He said he was unwell, which I don't know about.

Depends on your gut feeling tbh!

Like you said you are reluctant to waste a lunch time on him, maybe text and agree but leave it to him to arrange and if he doesn’t then move on

I wouldn't no. I'd maybe do a lunch.

I'd make it for coffee, or lunch at best.

He decided at 7pm yesterday that he was too unwell to go out that night?

Nope I wouldn't waste another Friday/Saturday night on this one. A quick coffee on Sunday or a weekday instead maybe.

As long as he pays in way of apology I would go for it.

Not quite the same but my now husband was over an hour late for our first date! Needless to say glad I gave him a shot

Is he definitely single? Did you check his facebook page?

Is he definitely single? Did you check his facebook page?

I couldn't find it, but I didn't get that vibe. I'm torn between he got a better offer, he was chickening out or he was genuinely ill.

I would give him the benefit of the doubt this once. But let him do the running re. going out Saturday.

Had the same with my current DP except it was 10 mins before. He said his dad was ill and cancelled whilst i was sat in the carpark of the meet place.

He took his dad to hospital that night and his dad died not long after.

I gave him another chance because he called me later the evening of the cancellation to explain then rearranged once he knew what was going on with his dad. He was very communicative. If he hadnt have been, i would have forgotten him and moved in.
What vibe are you getting?

If he was ill he would have known before 7pm...did he call or text? If he called fair enough. If he text that I think that's lame....

He texted. I would totally understand if it was a parent or child in hospital or something, but all I have to go on is a very short text... which I think answers my own question.

I'm going to see if he messages again.

I would go. Take it at face value. Why would you assume he is lying? That seems a strange attitude if there are no other red flags.

I'm inclined to say no but I don't know if I'm being a bit princessy

Firstly, own your decision, if you don't want to take things forward, it isn't about being princessy, it's your life and time they'd be wasting.

In general, up the bar significantly for any OLD date you go on. You'll get a lot of time wasters and weirdos so if they don't move heaven and earth to be graced by your presence, it's one chance and one only - he's blown it, so move on to the long queue of other hopefuls and don't look back

Unless he was dying of flu, and let's face it, he couldn't have because if you have flu, you wouldn't even bend down to pick a £50 note up let alone send a text, basically he couldn't be arsed to keep to his commitment.

#harshbutfair

Or he could have had a better offer, and you'll never know....

That's the "joy" of OLD I'm afraid.

Honestly, I once cancelled a date last minute as I suddenly came down really ill. I'd been fine at work all day and then I started throwing up blood. Pleurisy.

Give him one more chance.

i wouldnt. it isnt meant to be hard this dating thing.

Stuff happens, but if he does not have a decent excuse id jib him off

I cancelled on friends last minute last weekend because I was suddenly stuck down with a bad stomach. It can happened for legitimate reasons. I say give him another chance.