Is it ok to ask someone what they want?

[keysonthehighshelf]

I've been on a date with a lovely bloke who I really like. I'm taking it slow, but no idea what he wants and just don't see the point if he just wants casual flings etc. I don't want to be too full on and start talking about wanting something serious. How do I bring this up? I'm so not used to this!

Wait until a couple of dates in and then ask.

Disclaimer I haven’t dated for a long time!

What circumstances did you meet under?

I think one date is abit soon, I would leave it a few dates

I'd ask straight up, in fact if OLD I'd expect it to say on their profile so you already have an idea. No harm in asking early a general intent, you're not pinning them down to it being you and if not on same page from the off it's just wasting time.

I think you should date other people as well so as not to put all your eggs in one basket. Then after a few dates I would perhaps bring it up. Normally I only date people who are looking for something long term. So I usually ask even before agreeing to a date.

I wouldn't bring it up for quite a while yet. You don't say how long you have known him before the date or whether you have only just met, but after the first date having this conversation would probably lead to either being love bombed or him running a mile. Also everyone is on their best behaviour on the first date