Found tadalafil in boyfriend's draw?

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I was looking for paracetamol or ibuprofen in boyfriend's bedside draw for a headache and found a new box of tadalafil one strip missing, other strip in his wash bag, one tablet missing.

Last weekend I thought he was quite 'keen' to have sex. We've not had any bedroom issues to my knowledge. Odd occasion he has been unable to (TMI) 'finish'.

Together 2 years, don't get to see each other more than one or two nights a week due to living an hours drive from each other, his shift work, both having two children from previous relationships. Totally weirded out by it 🤢. I've a feeling the boys from work might have had some influence on this. Can't talk to him about it today, all four kids here?? X

Leave the poor guy alone

And it's a drawER

You beat me to that

I wouldn't worry about it. Bringing it up would just embarrass him.

"Leave the poor guy alone"

Yeah. It is common for blokes in their 40s to start suffering some erection problems. Instead of jumping to the conclusion he's doing something wrong, I think just don't say anything as being selfconscious can make things worse. It is a low dose after all. And you might be thinking you're somehow not attractive enough for him? Don't worry, its not you.

I've dropped something similar before, not because I needed it but because I thought it'd be fun to fuck like a pornstar.

It was.

Don't read too much into it.

Just ride him like seabiscuit

I wish he'd talked to me about it. I'm not bothered if he wants to take it but I feel I should know as it kind of involves me in too. It's the doing it behind my back that I'm bothered about

Plenty of young men take it as a booster, ie to ensure that they perform at their best. Don't overthink it - it's not a huge serious matter which you need to discus between you . Sex won't be any different when / if he takes it. He'll just feel more confident .

"Fun to fuck like a pornstar"

Christ these threads don't half bring out the knuckledraggers

Sounds like he's only had one tablet anyway. You could ask him but he's your boyfriend, sounds as though you aren't living together so why worry if the relationship is good.

There was a health campaign about 10 years ago talking about 40 over 40, meaning 40 percent of men over 40 experience some sort of erectile dysfunction. See if he is willing to talk to you about it.

I've dropped one many times. It means I know I will out in a good performance without having to worry about what's happening down there.
He is taking them to ensure you have a good time too, so I really wouldn't get confrontational over it.

This thread is a revelation. I had no idea it was so common for healthy guys to rely on drugs to help them perform sexually.

I am no longer young but I would be horrified if I found I needed a pill to be able to sh*g my DW properly - one foot in the grave and all that.

Surely there is a risk that these drugs will induce psychological - and perhaps physical - dependence and guys who take them will find they cannot perform without them?

Why do you think its the first time he's used it?
He's maybe been on it for years.

@Anothernick I'd guess its because of the attitudes from the majority of people in this thread that most people who suffer from some form of erectile dysfunction keep it a secret, including from their partner. Some estimates reckon that as many as 1 in 4 men under 40 suffer from some form of erectile dysfunction.

Why was it from an online pharmacy. Wouldn't it be prescribed by the GP if it was for a diagnosed issue. £75 a box online as opposed to £9 on prescription??

You can fill in an online questionnaire and get it dispensed to a pharmacy rather than going through your own gp. Maybe he's too embarrassed to go to his gp

@muddyfunker Good work, ED is definitely humourous and should be laughed at. That'll definitely not cause more people to hide their ED so their privacy violating (accidentally-ish) partner can get all het up on an online chat forum.

Erm nope, I didn't laugh at erectile dysfunction anywhere or at any point.

I made a light hearted comment regarding my own use of a drug and was called a knuckledragger.

I guess you have to be a dour faced misery to get along here.

Yeah, that's right @Muddyfunker. Thanks for stopping by

I think that's Cialis, not Viagra. At that dosage i'd assume it's for daily use. I don't think it means he's cheating, necessarily. Maybe it's for confidence as it's not uncommon for men to start experiencing ED problems in their early 40's. If that's it, be glad he cares enough to be proactive. Many men don't want to discuss it, even with their GP.

Has he given you any reason to think he'd cheat?

Forgot to say, daily use means he'd be able to be spontaneous, instead of taking it, waiting an hour, and then trying to rekindle the mood. For some couples, that in itself makes some ED medication a dealbreaker. Not sure why, it just does.

It's viagra for short term enhancement, i.e. it takes effect quickly and the effects don't last long. Generally you take it immediately before you need it.

Tadalafil is a lot longer lasting. Takes longer to have any effect and the effects can last a few days. Usually you take one tablet per week.

Viagra is when you need a boost, i.e. longer lasting, harder etc. Tadalafil is more for people having problems getting it up in the first place.

Your partner may not actually be able to "perform" at all without tadalafil.

Forgot to say, daily use means he'd be able to be spontaneous, instead of taking it, waiting an hour, and then trying to rekindle the mood.

Tadalafil doesn't have full effect in just an hour - it takes several hours. It's no good for spontaneous effect at all - you need viagra for that.

5mg is the daily dose so you can be spontaneous as it is taken every day so you dont need to wait before sex.

Info suggests to take it 30 minutes beforehand and effects can last up to 36 hours