Alcoholics who have to stop drinking

[RecoveringAlcholics]

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I've seen alot of posts lately with husband or partners addicted to drink or drugs.

Their difficulties on seeking help etc.

What happens if the decision is literally taken out of their hands.

Has anyone had experience of someone developing liver disease, being shocked to the core and then stopping. They don't want to die so have stopped and won't again say they.

What was the fall out like when their crutch was literally taken away?

A long time ago, my ex was diagnosed with liver damage and something else potentially very dangerous and alcohol abuse related. He had been vomiting blood, was rushed to hospital, and I was distraught. He was terrified and didn't want to die.

After a few weeks of investigation and medical treatment, it turned out that the second condition had actually been a temporary inflammation rather than permanent damage.

He celebrated by going out on a huge bender.

In the end, it didn't matter whether he couldn't stop or wouldn't stop. The impact on me and DC was the same either way. I'm so glad I divorced him and stepped away.

Dry drunks, as opposed to alcoholics in recovery who have embraced sober living, can be impossible to live with. They're often bitterly resentful that their crutch or 'friend' has been taken away, and aren't quitting on their terms. Their addiction will more than likely manifest in other ways, such as gambling or other destructive behaviours.

If an alcoholic has to quit due to liver disease, fear may keep them from drinking, but be prepared for the psychological aspects of addiction to remain. If a liver transplant is necessary, 6 months of proven sobriety is mandatory, and the medical team will want to see sincere intentions (and action, naturally) of living sober.

Counselling or psychotherapy can be beneficial, but this is an unenviable position to be in. Many alcoholics diagnosed with liver disease continue to drink out of fear, and often hopelessness. Sadly, the only way is down in this instance.

Sorry to hear that

In this case they were already having therapy and were really trying to stop.

He had tried to cut down and stopped many times.

This time though the decision has been made but he did want to stop.

IME it's often not enough to shock them to stop, by the time the liver is that far gone they have already given up on themselves and have had years of warning signs to no avail

I have a relative who didn’t stop drinking and died a very horrible sudden death because of it. They were in denial for a long time and nothing would make them see that they had to stop
Even after they died other people kept validating their decision to carry on drinking by blaming it on a low tolerance to alcohol

I don't drink anymore but out of my own volition. I am loving life alcohol free and belong to a few Facebook groups for people who give up drinking. We recently had a person in one who has cirrhosis of the liver. They gave up because they were told to and they just weren't happy about it. Needless to say after a medical test showing that things had improved they went straight back to drinking. It will kill them sooner rather than later. Alcohol is such a bastard.

Me at moment. Husband works full time has OCD and depression.
Drinks full frosty Jack's every night and 6 strongbow more on a Sunday.
Had a blood test and his liver is 180 apparently so been repeated few weeks. I've told him needs to stop or will die and we have a 5 and 10 yr old. He doesnt want to. I just said well I'll get 200k on life insurance then when u die. Cant change someone who doesnt wanna change xx