Sorry in advance if this seems a bit of a ramble!
Myself and my partner have been together 14 years and although it hasn’t been hearts and flowers for a long time, has now got to the point where I’ve had enough! He was always a bit selfish but after having dd 6 years ago this has become more prominent for example, he goes out every weekend as if it’s his right of passage, doesn’t even feel the need to tell me, he just assumes I will be there. That my mum will look after the children all day and I will look after them after my work. (Even when they are babies and Saturday night should be the one night I get off getting up early/during the night, he can’t because he’s been drinking! )
But after my second little girl was born just over a year ago this selfishness has taken a new level and his behaviour has become unbearable. I only work a few days as I am needed to look after the baby yet he expects me to pay out my whole wages on bills, running a car (he pays nothing towards because he doesn’t drive and which according to him is my luxury and I don’t need any other money), and generally feeding and clothing our girls. Meanwhile he uses his money that doesn’t go to the house to gamble, go out on sat nights and buy clothes for himself! He checks every penny I spend that I ask to be reimbursed for including the tiny amount he gives me for food shopping. Everything about him is “me, me, me!” He’s lazy round the house and plays his laptop constantly.
We recently sold our flat to get something bigger. I’ve moved back with my parents and the girls and he has moved in with his mum and dad. I admit we would have been getting a new house out of convenience in my mind as I need his salary to get the lending for a nice home for my girls. But since moving in with his mum he hasn’t bothered in weeks to even offer me money and between me and my parents we are paying for them. When I ask for money for basics it’s scrutinised and he moans about it. More worrying than that is the fact he lives 5 mins away on the bus but makes no effort to see them!
The thing is my eldest just loves him and in her eyes he can do no wrong!! 
of course he plays on this.
My sister was even going to give us money to help us get somewhere we really wanted but he’s not even grateful for that!!
Enough is enough and I now realise I’d be better off without him, but I don’t know where to turn??
Rental properties are really not keen as some of the payments would be made by benefits, is there any way round this??
Also he claims he will be giving me no more than £50 a week for the girls is this all he needs to pay when he earns a salatof £24,000.
New to this so any information greatly appreciated! X