Finding time for each other

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Not really sure what I want to achieve from this post but here goes..

We have recently had another child (DD born on 12/12) and we also have a DS who is 3 in April.
Up until DD's birth, despite having a DS who didn't really sleep through the night and always ended up in our bed, we still managed to find time for each other even if it was just cuddling in bed (which is honestly one of my favourite things that makes me feel close to him).
Now we have 2, it's like we don't have any time. DD normally sleeps in our bed because she will not settle in a cot what so ever. (I follow all the rules for safe co sleeping) and then during the day my partner is working and my DS misses him so much that when he gets home hes all over his dad (which is cute, and I love the bond they have but we literally get no time together) My partner is an amazing dad but he has gone back to work and has to get up at 6:00 to drive an hour and half to work. Last night for example, between the two of our children, they kept me awake until 4:00am when I finally managed to get an hours sleep before DD needed feeding again. Due to him having to go to work we slept in different rooms so he could get some sleep (my idea, he wouldn't of ever dreamed of suggesting it) but it just made me feel like we are growing further apart, which is silly I know.
I absolutely love my children more than anything and basically all I ever wanted was to have 2 kids, but I suppose even though I knew it wouldn't be a walk in the park I didn't really realise how much of an impact it would have on our relationship. In no way what so ever is this a post about how my partner has been pressuring me for intimacy or has been complaining about our kids.. I suppose it was more just me wanting to get my feelings across (I always feel better when I've written them down - hence the essay ).

I know 'this too shall pass' and before I know it DD will be sleeping through the night and in her own bed, but I have forgotten how hard a newborn is and I although my favourite thing in the world is being a mum and I love my two children more than anything, I can't help but miss what me and my boyfriend used to be.

It’s still really early days. If I’m reading right, your DD is still only weeks old really. Your post sounds lovely actually - you clearly love and value your relationship with OH and you aren’t complaining or resentful. With that you will get through these difficult early days.
I guess it’s a case of grab it where you can at this point. A quick cuddle in the kitchen, a text here and there, just to keep the connection. Your focus is bound to be elsewhere right now, but if you keep up the little things it won’t be lost forever.