I have been with my partner for 5 years and we have a 16 month old daughter.
He was married prior to us meeting and getting together and they have a 10 year old daughter.
When I was 7 months pregnant, I found out that he had been sleeping with his ex wife for the first 2-3 years that him and I began living together. Being heavily pregnant when I found out, rightly or wrongly, I pushed it all to the back of my mind, forgave him and "moved on". He has never really shown any sort of remorse for the pain this caused to me and to our relationship, yet doesn't understand that I am still struggling with it. I believe this is because he refuses really to talk about or acknowledge what he did.
He is incredibly moody and becoming more and more controlling as time goes on.
I work full time, yet continue to do all that is "expected" of you as a mother. This combined with his bad attitude leaves me pretty tired and in no mood for any intimacy. I have tried and tried to get over this, but I M not sure I can. Certainly when Im being left alone to process this.
I think constantly about leaving him. But more than anything o feel guilt towards his daughter (from precious relationship ) as I have built a great relationship with her and feel terrible walking out of her life.
Had anyone got any advice for me? Will this all "go away?" Will I just "get over it"? Or am I being foolish waiting for this all to just get better on its own?
Advice welcome! X