Opinions please

[JustJosephine]

Hi everyone
I would like peoples honest opinions please.
When I was in the last couple of years of high school i had this thing with this guy, it wasent serious we never considered ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend although we both didn't see other people.
Were were young like 15 -16 and we would go to music concerts together and I would go to his alot and have tea with his family and we went to a local like nightclub type place together and we were always touchy feely, we spent alot of time together and we did have like sexual contact lol although we never had sex there was clearly feeling in both sides.
When we left school we kind of drifted apart, there were no bad feelings and ever since we have always kept in touch like every couple of years we would have a chat he used to call me then it would be on Facebook we would just chat and you know ask the general stuff like hows your family.
He always remembered everything I said to him what jobs I worked and names of companies I walked for and names of my family.
I picture popped up today on Facebook of us like 10 years ago and i sent it him on messenger we started talking general stuff he then asked me if he knew my boyfriend etc.. think that was a way of checking I had a boyfriend, he wanted to meet up for coffee??
I have been in a relationship for 8 years, and I said to him honestly that I dont think my boyfriend would be very happy as we had a thing and i wouldn't like my boyfriend meeting someone he had a thing with, and I joked whatever our thing was and he was like yeah we were very close to each other.
And I dunno it's just sent my head into a spin do you think I did the right thing by brushing him off? I haven't saw him for 12 years

Why did you share the photo with him? Were you deep down hoping you'd get this sort of reaction from him?

Tbh I think maybe it's better to stay well away from it all. If you're happy then continue living your life without contact with this man, if you're not happy then that's a whole other story.

It all sounds very puerile OP. You aren't 'close' you know nothing about one another he doesn't even know enough about your real life to know you have a boyfriend of 8 years!

If you aren't that into your partner then leave the poor bloke and then explore other options. Fishing around with another man to see if there is an opportunity for something based off a very vague fantasy isn't likely to lead anywhere positive. If his other guy is happy to try it on with you when you're taken then he is also not eprrh bothering with.

I'd spend less time thinking about your missed opportunity with a fantasy and more focusing on whether you are happy in your relationship and life and whether you need to make changes.