Why am I struggling now?

[Desolate2nite]

Ended my relationship last October. Don't know how to add a link for that. Have been doing really well, no contact etc, but atm I'm really struggling, thinking about him and the good times constantly and feeling so down. He has been abroad (in a place that is popular for sex tourism and easy drugs) for a few weeks and is due back soon. I'm feeling like I want to contact him

Why did you split up with him?

Remember those reasons.

What have you done to move your life on?

How do you know what he has been up to? Are you stalking his social media? If so you maybe need to block him.

You can't move forwards if you keep him in your life like that.

What worked for me was to write a goodbye letter - and burn it. Give yourself closure. Then give yourself permission to move on.

I have blocked him, people have made a point of telling me where he is. There was a drugs issue so I took myself out of the friendship circle and I'm starting to socialise with workmates. My life is good without him, that's why I can't understand why I'm suddenly feeling as I do. I guess I'm just being stupid

What people? Tell them to butt out.

His friends

Stay away. X

Was he abusive by any chance?
In which case he'll be using his friends to try get you back.

Make sure you block them too and have nothing more to do with them.

Yes he was abusive. I had blocked all of his friends but they have actually come into my workplace to tell me!