"Friendship" - toxic acquaintance that I can't leave alone...

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Fellow mum who lives geographically quite close to me that I met at a stay and play.
Her DH does big job in City and earns mega bucks - they have done well for themselves - big house, flash car, amazing trips away etc.
But she is clearly lonely af. She has very high standards of what she thinks is right (didn't let the kids watch telly for ages, for eg) and is also patronising to many who have tried to befriend her as goes on and on about her (first world) problems.
(e.g. of what she has said to me "do you work because you financially have to, or because you want to? )
I don't really see her any more as kids are older and go to different schools - but we are FB friends. She doesn't post often but when she does it is usually stealth boasting that makes me
But I can't stop looking to see oh god what she has posted now.
How can I leave her alone?
Why does it bother me?
NB have posted on R'ships not AIBU so be kind please.

Just unfollow her, stay friends but choose not to see her updates. Then have willpower not to keep checking her profile!!!

Yes. I should do this. I wonder what it is that my makes me fascinated. It's literally like a car crash, I can't help myself

This is called "hate following".

You're probably doing it because you're envious of some aspects of her lifestyle, and need to remind yourself of what you disapprove of about her, so that the envy doesn't feel as bad.

I do it myself, many people do. It's not that toxic as long as it's not taking over your life or causing you to mistreat her.

But the best course of action is probably to accept your own envy, acknowledge it, own it, and practice feeling compassion towards her and yourself. Look up metta meditations on YouTube if you want to try this.

Schadenfreude

It’s Hat following to be honest mostly it stems from jealousy on some level and you tell yourself you hate them because it makes it easier than saying there is something you envy about them .

hate not hat

You sound quite similar: equally fascinated with something to which you feel superior.

There is certainly financial envy there. I am very jealous. but I am also aware that that much money also comes with a lot of sacrifice.

I had not heard of this term: hate following and have just found this: www.womenshealthmag.com/life/a29329064/hate-following-advice/

I don't mean to appear superior. I feel sad for her that she has this materially amazing life but that she doesn't seem able to enjoy it.
But I have tried to be friends with her and it doesn't work.
Thanks for the advice