Are there no decent men over 40 out there who want to commit?

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This is slightly facetious title as I'm in a newish relationship with a man in his 40s and I think he's lovely. We met after separating from our respective spouses following long marriages (neither of us had made the decision to separate).
But my boyfriend's ex recently broke up with her boyfriend and then confided to my boyfriend the reasons and that she now felt there was little hope in online dating as apparently there are no good men over 40 who want commitment.
I can't make out why she would say this to him. And is she right?

I suspect the good men who want to commit did so long before they were forty and are still in that committed relationship. Certainly most of the good men I know are happily married with families approaching or just into adulthood.

Others looking for new love tend to come with baggage. Same as women.

Ha ha Aminuts but as an attractive, enotionally stable woman in her 40s with a decent job, I'm afraid I've been taken off the market 😛
RuffleCrow I toally agree. I thought my ex was a catch. On paper he was. Handsome, clever, great job, caring. Turns out that was all a lie and he cracked in classic midlife crisis style and had an affair to try and validate himself and erase dull his deep seated unhappiness. Sigh.

Not snapped up because it is so difficult to meet someone,even on,say POF.Do not need your money,house etc,well sorted as far as that is concerned.

:(

My boyfriend’s ex is like this OP— keeps returning to be boundaryless to my bf every time one of her new, super serious relationships fails. It’s a bit of a nuisance to be honest. And he’s so used to her doing it I can’t imagine him actually putting good boundaries in place, though he has got better. Pp nailed it: he was the ‘grown up’ in their relationship.