My previously close male friend is very probably gay.
He can be derogatory about women and comment on their dress/ make up etc if he sees them as scantily dressed. This repulses him and he is vocal about his contempt for them.
He has a girlfriend. He has told her that he is not very interested in sex.
He does not get aroused with women but can perform.
His girlfriend is years younger then him and has many abusive relationships.She chased him and has submitted to his many demands for example , his need for space, his need to control every aspect of their relationship, his dislike of make up etc .
He is very happy to have met someone who agrees with and submits to his needs and wants but I am very worried about her.He said that she had an awful childhood and is deeply affected by it. He sees himself as a white knight.
She wants to cohabit, have children and
Marry. He doesn't want kids , fears commitment and is self Confessed selfish.He has not outright told her this , he just says he is not sure.
Yet he is the most charming, warm, loving
Man one could hope to meet.
He is kind and generous to her. He is attentive and prioritises her when
They are together.
She has no idea that he has no sexual interest in women, she believes as he told her that he just is not too interested in sex.. 'it's not personal!' They don't really have sex.
I see why he is happy with his lot. He has a lady in his life who does not demand, has him on a pedestal and is candy
On his arm in a very macho male dominated family and profession.
It is not my business but I feel awful that I know all of this and feel a type of guilt.
She is not my friend. I don't know her, only of her from what he tells me.
I've grown very much apart from him as I have no respect left for him.