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What would you class this as ?

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Sugarcainx · 16/01/2020 19:18

An abusive ex of mine. He was having an emotional affair with a "friend" from work, which later turned into cheating and he was in a relationship with her within a week of us breaking up.

One night I was in bed, he had been out with her and came in drunk. He started saying that he would date her if he were single, that she was 'just really nice'. (yeah, so nice that she was pursuing someone with a girlfriend).
He started saying that I was 'like a child' and I 'wasn't a proper adult'.
I started crying and he then tried to have sex with me. I refused and pushed him off me, and he did this 2 more times, I had to keep pushing him off, he eventually stopped . Then I got out of bed and he told me I looked 'really sexy' with my pyjamas on.
Then the next morning he was saying he didn't know what came over him when he did that.
I feel disturbed about it, he is still dating the girl and I wish I had broken up with this creep so much earlier. Cannot believe I allowed him to treat me that way.

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Surplus2requirements · 16/01/2020 19:21

I wouldn't class this as anything.

It IS attempted rape

Sugarcainx · 16/01/2020 19:41

I feel kind of sick about it. Sadly if it was, there isn't anything I can do about it now, there's no proof of anything. She's dating an abuser, I feel sorry for her. But she was very happy to try it on with him whilst I was with him, not that I would wish him on anyone.

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GiveHerHellFromUs · 16/01/2020 19:47

I'd class it as a lucky escape.

Sugarcainx · 16/01/2020 20:43

I still feel disturbed about the whole thing. I'm going to do the online freedom programme, i've heard a lot of great things about it.

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