really want my husband to woo me a bit, just don't know how to let him know

[probablynotunusual]

so, have been married quite a while
and like most couples i think we have fallen into a bit of a rut (sexually), not a bad one but you know a bit complacent
just lately have been feeling really fruity but he's not picking it up
I know we are 'together' enough that i can just tell him this and it'll be fine but I so badly want him to just woo me - you know? I mean i know what would work to make him understand. i think I want him to be a bit telepathic
Do you know what i mean - I want some romance or something, not me going 'ok, better make it clear to him - agian'
so what can I do that isn't really obvious?

make a nice meal for him? dress up when he gets home and make the effort yourself? booka babysitter and have a night out? sometimes you have to take the lead and show them how to do it

you could be subtle and do all the dressing up candles and dinner thing.

you could be upfront and just say to him 'look I need a bit of romance - I want to feel wanted - do something please'

do what hana says and then the next day when saying what a lovely evening you had say lightly "let's try to make it a regular thing. your turn (to sort it all out) next..."

I need to book a babysitter for the weekend.....it's my turn [smile}

I think you should just tell him.
Say, I want some romance, I would love to be woo ed, what about if we both make an effort?

PMSL @ Fio

and the golf.....rugby....cricket....

the dressing up and the candlelight meal
i just don't want to do that
I want him to kind of know so I was after something subtle
usually its me making the effortbut i know he won't know unless i do something and that's kind of what's making me a bit deflated
and if i tell him he'll feel a bit got at I'm sure
There's something really nice about being married for a loong time but then you think, oh not the romantic dinner again

I find men need it spelling out or they will think you are quite happy just rubbing along.

Tell him, he is a man not a mindreader.

Yes, tell him.

DH keeps forgetting to be romantic with me and I have to keep on reminding him. Doesn't bother me.
He also keeps on forgetting the bins and have to keep on reminding him. That one does wind me up.

Of course, he remembers for longer about the being romantic thing because he reaps the benefits

DD is helping in our house. Every time her dad kisses her hello or goodbye or goodnight, she says 'kiss mummy too'

no need for it to be a romantic meal though..what about a night out at the cinema sharing the popcorn and a hand on his thigh...iykwim or a suprise snog in the back row.

Or book a night doing something really different..passionate salsa/ballroom dancing..that could get his temp rising..

A concert/musical/night at the theatre...? A suprise romantic gesture from you may well get him reminiscing about what you used to do when it was the early days...good luck!