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Feeling lost and confused

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Coffeecatlover · 15/01/2020 23:52

I’ve been with my husband for 6 years and we have 2 kids 4 and 1, we work different hours and don’t spend much time together but the time we do get together he would rather be doing different things. I’ve thought for a while he doesn’t love me, he’s selfish and doesn’t give me any affective which in turn leads me to not bother either. I feel we have reached the end of the road but we never talk. My main concern over anything is my babies, one has just started school. I don’t want to move then somewhere else but I also dont want to be with someone who doesn’t love me. I walk in a room and he walks out. I’m so lonely. I have no fight in me right now and I am just waiting for him to say the words that he wants out. I’m sad but I know I can do this alone I just need it to happen one way or another. I just don’t know what to do. We don’t argue and I think that’s the bad thing. There is nothing there and I hate feeling this low and I know I make him so I happy. Do I just let go and move on but I can be unhappy forever for the sake of my children? I just don’t know! Any advice or friendship appreciated. Thank you. Xx

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Coffeecatlover · 17/01/2020 23:48

Any help out there? I don’t know who else to turn to. Thank you 😊

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BrainWormsWontWin · 17/01/2020 23:50

Your children will know it's not right. You can't stay for them, that makes no sense. What are you showing them about how relationships work? Do you want them to repeat your patterns in adulthood?

Get out and save your sanity. You can both still be parents and I bet you'll be a better one if you're happy.

mildlymiffed · 17/01/2020 23:52

@coffeecalover - it's sad that you're feeling this way. Do you think in the first instance you could talk to him? You say you don't have any fight in you- so don't fight. Just wait for the kids to go to bed and sit down and talk....? It sounds like you've drifted. If you want to be together you'll need to work on it jointly and come up with an plan. Alternatively you need a plan to be apart. It doesn't really sound like anyone's fault, so if you tackle it amicably surely that would be better for you both, and for the kids?

Risefromtheashes · 31/01/2020 14:59

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