Abusive relationship

[shadeib]

My parents have been married for a long time. My dad is a difficult man and I spent my youth trying to please him. Anyway, long story short , I was the one he bullied for a long time - until I got my own life etc. Then it was my sister (she's since left home), and now it's my mum that's left.

I can see the deterioration in her - she's angry and frustrated and just a shell of her former self - she has no self confidence and she's stressed and worried all the time - I'm just wondering whether she'll escape or not. What are the chances she'll divorce or will it end up another way.

Have you talked to her about this and offered her support in leaving him?

www.womensaid.org.uk/the-survivors-handbook/im-worried-about-someone-else/

She's angry and frustrated now her shields are gone. Didn't she notice your dad bullying you for years? There's nothing you can do to help your mum, perhaps make her aware that the relationship is abusive and that there is help out there should she need it.

I think it's important for you to get some help and support for what you went through at the hands of 'both' your parents.