I’ve been with my partner for 7 years. We have a nearly 9 months old baby. After having him, our relationship is completely different - I knew it would be in the sense that our baby is number one priority and things change in general but I just can’t put my finger on what is wrong.
We’ve had sex once since baby was born and it’s never even spoken about until recently I made a bit of a joke about it and he acknowledged it but just basically said that we’re both exhausted (which is true) as he works lots of hours and I’m up all night with baby who doesn’t sleep very well.
When we row, it spirals out of control and we threaten about breaking up (which I hate the thought of) but then within a month or so we just seem to go back to square one.
We do generally get on quite well and have a laugh together but the arguments are just something else.
OH has recently fallen out with his family which hasn’t been great as they didn’t see baby over first xmas and obviously he doing that hurtful... so he does have a lot on his plate but I do feel like it gets taken out on me because I’m the one there, at home, all day. I’m returning to work very soon after my maternity leave finishes and I just don’t know whether this will help the situation or not. I’ll feel better that I’m out earning my own money and it’s less stress on him as he doesn’t have to pay for everything (we’re not in a bad situation at all financially) but I do think this has probably been a part of the problem too but it’s just ruining my maternity leave.
Anyway, I’ve completely rambled on and I’m hoping someone can make sense of what I’m saying... I just really need some advice on what to do. Thanks for reading if you got this far xx