Dating - Plenty of Fish

[Isitmeorwhat]

Hi

I've heard that there are sex workers on POF that approach men on there.

Recently I've been getting messages from men treating me like a prostitute. I had a really unpleasant one and then today a guy said he would pay me for my company. I report them.

I don't have sexy photos on that site and it does say I'm looking for a relationship. I'm sorry if this offends sex workers but I find it really insulting especially as I work dam hard to pay the bills and have been to university.

Have any of you online daters had similar experiences?

It would be a shame to have to delete my profile as there are genuine men on that site and I have met a couple of nice men I have liked on there in the past. I don't have much luck on other sites.

Unfortunately you get this with all online dating - some women do solicit men this way, so clearly there’s an issue with that. The best you can do is block these men as soon as they pop up, just don’t engage with them. Don’t delete your profile or give up, I’m sure you will find someone genuine and decent that you have a connection with

Plenty of freaks.
In my time OLD I found that POF had nothing good to offer. Ever. It's too accessable.
Have you tried OK Cupid?

On the bright side, you're filtering out punters from the start.

I met my DH on there 5 years ago and we both instantly knew we'd met 'the one', yes it was that cheesy! He's absolutely wonderful. There are decent guys on there

I met someone special on POF. Found ok cupid the opposite. I guess it happens on all sites. Block report. Don't give up

I met my DH on plenty of fish 6 years ago, definitely sounds like a different site now!

I met DP on there 7 years ago, still together. May be worth going through a paid dating site, that would certainly get better results

Have you tried OK Cupid?

Yep; it's a cesspit of vile and intellectually challenged men

I met my current parter on POF 6 years ago. Just block and report those that approach you in that manner.

I'm sorry if this offends sex workers but I find it really insulting especially as I work dam hard to pay the bills and have been to university.

I think you'll find that sex workers also work damn hard, and that many will also have been to university.

I have read that a lot of the dating sites, particularly the free ones, link to each other in the background. So sites which are more narrowly focused on affairs, hook ups or barely disguised prostitution will serve up profiles (for people looking for LTR) to members there, despite the person’s settings.

Unfortunately there’s not a lot you can do about it, other than maybe consider a paid site. IME, they also have problems. Maybe not the same, but there are still time-wasters and chancers on them. You just have to persevere.

I had a bit of this when I was on POF. It is annoying when you are looking for something real and all you seem to be getting is men old enough to be your father and men fishing for prostitutes! I actually found Tinder and Bumble to be the best sites.

I was briefly on a site called Baddoo and THAT was a cesspool. Full of weirdos and creeps plus every second guy seemed to think I was going to turn up at his house and have sex with him after about 2 messages. I think there is a lot of sex work happening of that site.

I have my profile off and message men I like the look of 😂 politely of course.

Hi

Thanks for your comments, much appreciated.

It's good to hear some encouraging POF stories.

I have tried OK Cupid and didn't have much success with it.

I've tried paid sites and have been propositioned for sex a couple of times (without payment) but I've never had offers to have sex for money in messages.

Zesty Maximus - what I mean't was that I do a job I love which doesn't pay well and is long hours. On POF I was offered a job to work for an escort agency for £250 an hour. That's a hell of a lot more than I earn an hour and let's face it it wouldn't be for just escorting someone to dinner. On £250 an hour I could work part time. I wasn't trying to be snotty.

Yes, to be fair there are probably well edified sex workers and sex workers that don't earn much. Each to their own but I wouldn't do it.