How involved are you with stepchildren after break ups?

[ghostmouse]

My ex and I split 2 years ago and he has a 17 and 18 yr old ddsfrom a previous relationship.

I've known them since they were toddlers and I've always been close to them, they are sisters to my dds and over the years thier relationship with thier dad has never been good even when we were together, they always said they came to see me and thier sisters not thier dad.

I still see them, they stay over night occasionally and we message a lot.

My dp is fine with this, they like him and he has helped out with lifts when thier dad has no contact but he is keeps his distance which is fine.

I've had people saying this isn't normal but for us it is but how do you manage with things like a wedding ie dp and I. He likes them but only wants them to come to the night do when we do eventually..I can understand why..the eldest has kicked off at parties before.

I still want them to be a part of my life..they are still my dds sisters.

Anyone got any thoughts?

Certainly no cause to say leave the man, he's embraced his own and her relationship with 5 children that aren't his FGS.

I think you're brill op.
Very healthy.
Last year me and dp went to the wedding of my step sons half sister - it was a beautiful day.
Love can be found in many places.

There would be alcohol at the reception though. That's if we have a reception.

Anyway that's 2 years down the line..

Thank you for all your responses.