Confused by friendship

[confus]

I've namechanged for this but been here a long time. I'm really hurt/confused by this situation and was looking for some perspective advice.

I'd become really close to a guy a work since the summer -we are both married, and when I say close I mean as friends. No attraction there I believe on either part. We work in diff offices so would see each other every couple of months but would e mail, instant message, and Facebook message 4/5 times a week about anything and anything. He has been really supportive over some work stuff and a promotion I am applying for.

We both went on leave at Christmas and after a "have a nice Christmas message" I've not heard anything from and it all feels really weird, he just suddenly seems to have completely backed off in every way and I don't know why. I sent him a joke message at work and he responded but not in a typical way. I really miss the chats which sounds really daft but I'm not sure how to approach it handle it without it being awkward, or just to accept that it wasn't what I thought it was as a friendship.

Anyone experienced this, should I just ignore and carry on.

Ignore and carry on. Either he was after something else which never developed or his wife has questioned why he was messaging you frequently so he's backed off for her sake. Or he's just busy/had a SM break and hasn't resumed at his old levels.

Just send memes to someone else. If you're thinking that much about it perhaps look a bit more honestly at what you got out of it. Maybe it's better for your marriages to seek closeness and support there instead tbh.

I would make a guess that his wife has found out about the messaging and isn't happy about it so he's taken a step back for the sake of his marriage.

You are probably right and perhaps he was replacing something but I genuinely thought we were good mates! Obviously not. I doubt his wife would have been annoyed by the content there was nothing out of order in our discussions but perhaps you are right about the volume.

I'd say his wife has seen you too messaging frequently and doesn't like it . So she's told him to stop and he has .

Another one who thinks his wife is upset by the frequency of the messages Or maybe he wasn’t being upfront with his wife his contact with you