Friend always commenting on how I look

[Sugarcainx]

I have a friend who's roughly my height yet frequently refers to me as 'ickle' (very annoying word) even though i'm 169cm.
She once asked how tall my family were. I said that my Dad and brother were well over 6 foot, my Mum roughly my height if not taller, and she said, "So youre the little one then."
She always goes on about myself and her 2 sisters having big breasts, and at her wedding she was saying that I had the 'perfect measurements' and how it "wasn't fair". She's used the (not fair) line over the years.
At her wedding we were getting ready and again she commented on me being 'little'. (I think I was actually taller than her on the wedding day !)
She asked how much I weighed and when I said, she seemed shocked, and said it was 'all on my boobs'.
I have ignored it up to now but just find it a little annoying. Would you say something to her ?

I'd be tempted to call her 'Fattie' in turn...

Sounds like badly worded compliments

Maybe.. But since she keeps trying to push this idea that i'm short, i'm not sure.

And you refer to this person as 'friend'???
Maybe SHE is insecure about her own height, boobs etc and feels that putting you down makes her feel better. I've never heard the word 'ickle' before so had to google what it meant!

I'd tell her the average UK women is 162cm, so you are actually tall! If she says anything again, I'd rebutt it something like 'are you feeling insecure or something, is that the reason you constantly bring up my perfect- height, boobs, body?'

She's envious of your figure.

How strange! I agree with PP, I wonder if she's insecure herself? Not that it's an excuse.

I'm the exact same height as you and also think I'd be bugged if someone was insistent I was small. I have absolutely no issues with hight, but the fact that you aren't 'ickle' and are continuously told you are would just annoy the crap out of me!

I think she's referring to your width, not your height. I assume you're slimmer than her?

She's jealous and/or she fancies you.

@Sugarcainx she’s referring to your build not your height. She’s effectively saying your slim with big boobs. It sounds like she’s complimenting you. At 169cm tall I would say you’re above average height for a woman!

You are average height, I am the same as you give or take a couple of cm. When I was young people thought I was taller than I am. However you're a perfect height and your friend really should not be drawing attention to it. You may be 'small' compared to her - I was compared to my 6'3" husband - but your height is perfectly normal.

I doubt your friend means any harm at all but please tell her it gets on your nerves how she keeps on drawing attention to your size.

Younger people nowadays are generally taller, that's how it goes. There's nothing to criticise about it, we are all human beings.

(Btw my dad was 5'5" and mum, 4'11". My mother in law was 5'7", quite tall for her era but always thought I was the same height!)

Try saying "you're making me uncomfortable here, stop with the commentary on my height/physique!", in a fairly light way with a laugh and more seriously if you have to say it twice.

If she keeps going, then I'd stop seeing her.

She's complimenting you. But if you don't like just say something to her.

Sounds like she’s complimenting you.

How tall are you and how tall is she ?

Completely missed your height listed at the top 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

She sounds a little dull. Can't you change the subject? Start up a conversation about Harry and Meghan, or the weather, or the price of fish?

I'm only 155 cms tall.

People at work do it to me. In your case it could be your friend is a bit jealous?

Yeah maybe she's just complimenting, it's just coming across as insecure and potentially jealous because she has to mention it so much.

Maybe i'm ungrateful, I will just tell her next time that I appreciate it but she doesn't need to keep saying it.

Jealous as fuck

And hides it really badly