Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Husband disagrees with everything I say

26 replies

BigOldOakTree · 14/01/2020 21:16

I don't know where to start, I think I'm looking for someone to clear the fog in my brain and let me know what's going on.

DH disagrees with almost every single word I say. I've only noticed this recently but think it's been going on for longer. Quite by chance this evening we were talking about a subject we'd discussed yesterday but I knew he wasn't really concentrating yesterday. I took the opposite stance to see what his reaction would be and he contradicted his previous points to disagree with me. It sounds minor, but is really starting to undermine me. He literally disagrees with everything, if I said something was black he'd say its not, its white.

He is quite a controlling individual and I'm generally pretty unhappy with my life, but for mainly financial reasons I can't leave yet. Believe me I've considered every option please don't keep saying just leave, I find in real life this isn't an option for most low earners like me.

Does anyone have any experience of this sort of thing? I tend to tow the line on almost everything but to have to curb even my opinions now is too much for me to bear.

OP posts:
Interestedwoman · 15/01/2020 17:18

I think this is called 'countering.' I'm reading this:- www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1440504636?tag=mumsnetforu03-21 and one woman in it did exactly the same experiment. She pretty much said what he'd been saying, but because she was saying it he had to disagree with it.

You don't have to put up with this. Move back to the city if you like, and have a fulfilling life. xxx

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread