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Can this work?

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LentilDahl · 14/01/2020 19:54

I met someone and found myself genuinely interested, but we've discovered we have quite an age gap. I'm 24 and he's 39.

It sounds bad, but we'd already been out on several dates over 3 months before we actually asked each others age. People usually guess I'm around 28 and I didn't think on looking he was any older than 30. Neither of us thought to ask I guess, we hit it off from the get so we never really did all the small talk, just proper conversations.

We both have one child, have the same interests, we really get on like a house on fire. I'm just shocked the gap is so large. Can this work? We haven't made any plans, obviously, but have both expressed we would both like one more child. We just seem to be on the same page but my mind is just stuck on whether an age gap of over a decade will work. If you'd asked me before I met him if I'd be with someone his age, I'd of said no.

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wishywashy6 · 14/01/2020 20:05

I'm not sure anyone can tell you as it's totally down to the individuals involved but, I'm 37 and my DP is 27 ... we work fine.
My Dad is 71 and my step mum is 51 - they've been married 19 years now and still going strong.
I'd say just take it slow, enjoy it for what it is and see where it takes you.

LentilDahl · 14/01/2020 20:55

I guess I just don't want to proceed and get invested in something that ultimately won't work, but thank you for sharing your experiences.

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ohwheniknow · 14/01/2020 20:58

It might. It might not. There are a lot of variables involved.

What else do you want for your future besides another child? Career?

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