Finding our marriage a struggle - arguing a lot

[madamazoo]

I'm a stay at home mum to twins. Some days have been very difficult, and in the early days I would've liked to have had more help, but things are a little easier now they are 2.

I plan on returning to paid work when I have more time/energy.

I think my husband little depressed. He's said he's not happy in his job and I'm trying to help him saying I will support him if he wants to change direction - anything to stop him being sad and lacking in energy but he says he's fine and gets defensive when I mention that he's sad.

So many things need doing around the house too. I've been nagging but I just feel negative doing it, so now I do what's needed to be done myself. I feel like I've caused his depression by nagging.

You haven’t caused his depression. It sounds like you’re both struggling. Do you have any time just the two of you? You need to try and step back from the stress of his job and you having the DC all the time and reconnect, remember why you chose each other, make plans to tackle things that need doing together. You’re a team, it’s easy to lose that feeling but hopefully if you can get it back things will feel a bit easier.