Ex DP (split 6 yrs ago) after he was emotionally abusive to me & my children and had an affair. He married the woman he went off with but she has left him a number of times over the past 6 years.
She left him again in September and just before Christmas he asked for my phone number via one of his daughters who I'm still in contact with. I of course said no. (He's actually attempted to contact me a couple of times prior)
I messaged his wife over the weekend and told her what he had attempted to do and she ended up telling me what an awful time she's had with him. Abusive controlling etc.
She then sent me a screen shot of a text he'd sent to her (she'd obviously messaged him to tell I'm what I'd said he'd done) saying I was lying and I was the one chasing after him. So I sent her screen shots of the messages from his daughter telling me her dad was asking after me and could she pass my number onto him.
Now I feel really bad that maybe I've stirred things up. But then I would want to know if it was the other way around.