So how the on earth do you move in together???

[okiedokieme]

So kids are adults, both financially solvent etc but I'm trying to work out how to make it happen as we are miserable living across the country from each other. I'm job hunting there but how do you downsize 2 5 bed houses??? It's a nice problem to have. Give me your success stories please, inspire me!

Why are you downsizing 2 x 5 bedroomed houses? Surely one person simply sells their home and moves in with the other?

Both get separate legal/financial advice and read up, identify the main options, then discuss your respective wishes and reasons for your preferred option(s), constraints. And see if your wishes are compatible!

Has it always been a long distance relationship? Why are you both “miserable”?

I'd keep one house to rent out and move onto the other. That's what we did. We kept all the best furniture and sold all the duplicates. It took a while to do though.

Personally I'd keep one house and rent it out then both move into the other - keeps the options open!

I rent my house out on a consent to lease basis with my mortgage provider. Mostly so that I was covered incase it didn’t work out and had my own place to go back to.

Moved into DP’s house with him.

No advice on downsizing though.

Is your preferred option for one of you to move to the other’s, or to move to a third location?

UK location wise.

It's not a problem I've had or ever expect to have, but I agree with the others, don't sell up until you're sure it's all going to work. Get legal advice to ensure that any share of a new home purchased with your money goes to the people you want it to, and not to your new partner by default and then on to his/her family.

Good luck!

Both houses are being sold due to divorce proceedings (we were left by our respective partners) not rushing the sales, will be renting at first

In whose location?

Depends which one sells first

Yours - move to his location and rent a 2 bed house or flat
His - he rents a two bed house or flat

Then the other joins them when sold.