So my dp works a 5 on 5 off schedule, this consists of long night shifts. I’m a sahp but am looking to go back into work very soon once dd is in nursery. The problem is my dp is obviously very shattered after these shifts and sleeps right until it’s time to get up for the next one, he sleeps most of his first day off as well so really we get 4 days together, only it’s very hard to get out of that sleeping pattern I completely understand and I’ve done my best to try and help him, wake him up earlier, make him food to wake him up a bit etc. But he just doesn’t get up most of the time, he had a period of getting himself up early and it was so nice, even he said he loved it but now he’s gone back into sleeping all day staying awake all night, even when I get him up early he’ll often just go for a nap and then stay up all night because he can’t sleep because he’s not tired. I literally rarely see him now, when I do he’s either really grumpy because I woke him up or he’s tired, or it’s only for a few hours before I go to bed as dd wakes up early. I’m at my wits end, I guess it’s easy for him as he sees me when he wakes up but I find myself just bored out my mind waiting for him to drag his arse out of bed, I’ve tried explaining to him but he just says he struggles to change his pattern. Dd rarely sees him and I feel so bad for her. We haven’t slept in the same bed for months and I really miss the intimacy. I’m starting to think what’s the point in staying together, I appreciate he’s earning a living for us but with 5 days off come on! I feel pretty ill today and he’s just gone for a nap because he was up all night again when I could really do with the help today but guess now. This is ridiculous right? Any ideas on what else I could do? We do have lots of fun when we actually do get time together but it’s so rare.