Hi. First time posting after reading a lot of threads.
The short story- after 20 years of marriage, two kids and a lot of ups and downs, I was shattered in early December when a good friend (and qualified counsellor) advised me over a coffee that my relationship with my husband is emotionally abusive and controlling (by him). A lot of things fell into place. Feelings I have had for a long time now validated.
I raised the issue with OH and we have gone through deep remorse, denial, willing to do anything to save the marriage, “lets separate and see a solicitor”, it’s my fault and i am the abusive one......
Bit of a rollercoaster.
I have seen relate individually. He wants to do couples counselling but they wouldn't do that based on my session and friend has advised not a good idea in the circumstances.
I am trying to stand firm regarding the need for a change in behaviour and he has now agreed to see a counsellor.
Would just like to know of any success stories out there. Can he really change?
Thanks, in advance