This is the first time I’ve ever asked for advice on this as starting to feel a bit confused and desperate.
Basically I’m feeling pretty miserable. Have been married to my husband for 7 years (together for 10 years). We have two children age 2 and 5 years and I would say that things have gone downhill since having our second child. She was born with an undiagnosed abnormality which we both struggled to cope with.
I feel numb and my husband and I can’t even communicate with each other properly. We are frequently in a mood with each other and have lost respect. Our lives are centred around the kids who we love to bits but I feel we have no relationship together as husband and wife anymore. Sometimes the way my husband speaks to me is disrespectful. The other night I asked if I could lay on the sofa when he was already on it. He said no to me and added that he couldn’t care what I wanted.
My husband suffers from depression and started on anti depressants about six months after we had our second child. He is often quiet and moody, lacks energy. I’m not sure if they are working for him or if our current situation is just grinding us both down.
I spoke to him this morning about us perhaps separating. He seemed a bit shocked and asked was that how I felt before going out to work.
I guess nobody can answer if this is the right thing to do for us. I feel I just need some space to get my head together not being surrounded by negative energy all of the time. I feel that our interactions are starting to impact on the children and I don’t want that but I don’t want to just call it quits on our marriage either.
What are the signs that a marriage is over and how can it be saved?