Apologies for the long post ! I am 55 and have been married for the second time for 4 years . My 5 children have left home and 3 are living abroad. We have recently moved away from where I lived for over 30 years . My husband works away Monday to Thursday and locally at the w/e s therefore we see very little of each other as I work Monday to Friday . I am feeling lonely and isolated despite trying to meet people through a running club and inviting neighbours round for coffee . I m finding people already well established with friends and seem reluctant to want to socialise . Being very sociable I m finding this hard to deal with . My husband is not interested in socialising at all and is happy to watch tv every night and go to bed at 9 pm and doesn't feel the need for friends although on the few occasions we do go out with other people he enjoys himself . I suppose I am asking myself ' is this it now ? ' I am doubting myself constantly and even wondering if I need to end my marriage or is this the norm for most people in a long term relationship. I am even doubting my friendships as I find that if I don't contact friends/ make arrangements to meet then I don't see anyone . I am normally a positive person with a positive outlook but am really struggling at the moment .