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Multiple dating?

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SunshineOverStress · 12/01/2020 21:27

So I’ve only recently come out of a 15 month relationship only a month ago. I was upset at the time but now feel over it already! In the mean time I signed back up to online dating and have since been on two dates each with two men. I wasn’t obviously looking for anything serious, however, they’ve both ended up being so nice! One of them I’ve only had a kiss with, the other I’ve already slept with.

Guy 1 - 31, owns his own house but currently buying an ex of 7 years out and she has until the end of the month to leave and they split in September so pretty fresh (he’s showed me proof of this - I didn’t ask!) drives, good job, very gentlemanly, generous and good looking - we have a laugh and I do fancy him, he seems sensible and mature

Guy 2 - 28, more of a bad boy type which I usually would have grown out of by now, generous but lives with parents (as do I) been single for a year, has served a short sentence in prison for fighting a few years back which he’s been honest about and seems to want to do better for himself etc also good looking, but I feel like I have a proper connection with him and I honestly have never laughed so much we really bounce off each other! And the sexual chemistry is unreal and it is an amazing feeling to have!

So basically, how many dates is acceptable to learn more about both of them? Or do you think it’s important to have a self healing time after a break up?

What’s more important, prospects or chemistry?

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PicsInRed · 12/01/2020 21:36

has served a short sentence in prison for fighting a few years back

No. Just no.

And the sexual chemistry is unreal and it is an amazing feeling to have!

That's adrenalin - your body's instinctive reaction to danger/a psychopath. You're reading it wrong.

You aren't supposed to sex it. You're supposed to run from it. 🏃‍♀️🔥🔥🔥

Jane1978xx · 12/01/2020 21:49

With both of them you start with own house etc for one and generous for the other.

You should be looking at personality and the way they make you feel first.

otterhound · 12/01/2020 21:50

You’d need to hurt someone quite badly to go to prison. But people change.

If you are not after anything serious drop the one you are not having sex with and have fwb with the other.

But as someone who once did old - i swerved wide berth around people recently out of relationships - too much baggage and not enough self awareness!

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